Whether you are the unfaithful or the betrayed partner asking this question, it is really important for you to accept the fact that in order for the two of you to heal appropriately from the infidelity, you need to limit your interactions with the affair partner. In a perfect world, you would have zero interaction with the affair partner so that you don’t have to deal with unnecessary triggers as well as worry about relapse and resuming the affair. Please watch the video for a full exploration of this question.

I’m Afraid to Ask for Affection from the Unfaithful–What Should I Do?
It is no unusual after infidelity that the betrayed partner still has needs for affection and intimacy. This need for affection from the unfaithful partner